I just want to write a quick non-running-or-food post to announce that I’ve achieved one of my life goals this weekend: I wrote something that’s in the New York Times. It’s about my mom. Or her clothes. Really, it’s about me.
Here is the screenshot of the headline including the lovely illustration by Katherine Lam.
There are some really nice comments on there. I’ve been running around all weekend so I haven’t even read all of them yet. I’m still going through my mom’s clothes and, to a larger extent, photographs. My mom took tens of thousands of pictures throughout her lifetime, and I’ve been separating them into bins for different family members because I don’t want to move into an apartment with an extra bedroom just for the photographs. Unfortunately, she was a talented photographer so all of them are too good for the garbage.
I’m sad that it took what it did to see my name in print, but happy that my words have resonated with so many. I think my mom would have been proud. She probably would have gone out and bought 20 copies. I haven’t even bought a paper copy yet but I will in a bit. I’m only buying one because the last thing I want right now is more stuff.
Thank you to everyone who has left comments, contacted me, or shared my piece. Feel free to leave a comment about it here as opposed to on my recipe for Buffalo Chickpea Chili β although it’s truly fine either way.
I don’t have much to report in running news, as I haven’t done it in two days. My inner right knee is still acting up. It’s annoying. I hate it. I want it to not do that. Maybe my 14 miler last weekend was too much given the amount I’d been running in the weeks prior. I might have to take the week off. I’ll just keep making up for it by strength training instead. At this rate I’ll be cut as hell by the end of the month.
Congrats on having your piece published in the NYT. I’ll go look for it and read it with great pleasure.
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Thank you! π
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I loved reading your piece. Iβm old as the hills but I wore my mothers clothes too after she passed away. I have her favorite earings in my drawer and wear the ones my grandchildren like so much so I feel the generational link between the mother I loved and the grandchildren I love so deeply now. Her red polartec gloves are worn but still usable although I almost lost one so I keep extra care of where they are stored now. When I go to a big city I use her small black travel purse and I carry a bag too! Ha! We keep our mothersβ things but mostly we keep her in our hearts. Take care and treasure this heart you hold.
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Thank you for your comment. It’s so nice to hold onto things like that! I’m glad you still have them.
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This is AMAZING Ari, big Congrats! I am so happy for you. The piece is beautiful. It captures a part of life that’s so strange and unique and different–you can’t know it until you go through it. We lost my husbands mom three years ago and it touched my life in ways I never could have known were even a thing. The things I miss about her are sort of weird. Anyway, really enjoyed the piece and so ecstatically happy for you and your achievement. The TIMES! So awesome. Congrats girl. x
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Thank you! Yeah, even as we knew she was dying, I never considered so many things that I later realized were reality. Like how much work it is to go through her things, deciding what to keep, who to give what to, what do I want to donate, etc. Anyway, thank you. π
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Congrats on the Times article! My favorite thing to do on Sundays is buy the big fat paper and leaf through it. Articles like yours always pull me in and this was absolutely beautiful. What a wonderful way to remember your mother. I also thoroughly enjoyed reading the comments people left. It seems you really resonated with so many people. Very, very touching.
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Thank you! I bought a big fat paper tonight. π I was so happy it resonated with people. I hadn’t even considered that it might. Or I should say, it did more than I thought it would.
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How fun to see the responses. I buy that big fat paper for the crossword but then spend the afternoon leafing through all of the different sections (oh how I miss the old Sunday Travel Section, it used to be much bigger). Having kids really puts a damper on lounging around and doing all of that!
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I am so happy 4 u
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Thank you!
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This is an amazing accomplishment, congrats!!! I love your piece; it’s absolutely beautiful, and heartbreaking. I can’t imagine how hard it was to go through this. I hope you frame that article and show it off to everyone who sets foot in your home, it’s pretty badass to be published in the New York Times π
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Thank you! Maybe I should frame it. I bought a hard copy of the paper but haven’t even opened it yet. I think I was too nervous to. π Framing sounds nice.
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